Going through a separation, marriage dissolution, or divorce is extremely taxing financially, emotionally, and physically. However, as a father, it’s an even bigger hill to climb. You have your own struggles to deal with, but you’re also trying to stay strong for your kids.

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Finding a hobby can totally change the experience of divorce. It’s not just about keeping busy or distracting yourself; hobbies are a healthy outlet to help to reduce stress, provide a mental and physical escape, and give you a fresh sense of purpose. Some hobbies even provide another opportunity to bond with your kids. Here are five hobbies that can help you navigate through marriage dissolution while still being a fantastic father. 

  1. Sports and Fitness 

Taking care of yourself physically helps you to stay mentally strong. Whether your goal is to keep fit, get back into shape, or just improve your health, sport builds confidence, focus, and determination. It also boosts your energy levels, increases stamina, and releases endorphins that improve your mood, all of which contribute to being a great dad. If you join a team or a gym, you might meet new people. If your kids are old enough, bring them with you to matches or games, or work out together. 

  1. Creative and Artistic Activities 

The best way to process emotions is to express them in a healthy way. Creative hobbies like writing, painting, photography, or playing an instrument can help you channel your stress into something productive. Learning new skills (or nurturing old ones) also sets a great example for your kids, and provides another way to get involved in fun, creative projects together. 

  1. Cooking and Culinary Skills 

If you weren’t the primary cook before, now might be the time to get comfortable in the kitchen. Despite what it looks like, cooking can be surprisingly therapeutic. It’s methodical and creative, and you get to enjoy the fruits of your labor. It’s also a chance to form important memories with your kids that last a lifetime, whether you’re cooking up their favorite flavors for dinner or getting messy in the kitchen together. 

  1. Travel and Adventures

Not everyone can afford to take a long vacation, but even short trips and weekend getaways can work wonders. Solo trips help with self-reflection while getting friends together for a camping or road trip is a fun way to reconnect. While you and your children are getting used to a new schedule, remember to plan trips around your custody arrangement. You could also bring your kids on hiking trips and outdoor adventures, which are a great way to bond and teach important life skills. 

  1. DIY and Home Improvement Projects

If you’ve moved into a new place, involving your kids in small projects around the house helps them to feel more at home, too. Even if you’ve stayed in the family home, a fresh lick of paint or some new decor can help your space feel like a fresh start. Putting your own touch on things helps you feel a sense of control, ownership, and accomplishment, too. 

Endnote

During marriage dissolution, it feels like everything’s up in the air. A hobby can help you feel grounded. Whether it’s sport, music, or something else entirely, a hobby gives you something healthy to focus on so you can be the best version of yourself for your kids.

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